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Dealing With The Death Of A Loved One At Christmas Time

I know this is not a popular topic to discuss, especially during the holiday season, but none the less, it is a reality that some of us loose loved ones at Christmas time. 

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21 comments:

  1. UnknownDecember 9, 2011 at 9:25 AM

    Thanks for sharing this. It's our first Christmas without my sister's husband. We lost him on August 28th, at 23 years old. As much as I love and celebrate this time of year, my heart just isn't in it.

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  2. Eat To LiveDecember 9, 2011 at 9:57 AM

    What a great time to share this. They say time heals.... and it does, but at Christmas all to old memories come flooding back. It just make me sad that my Mom and Dad are no longer with us in body.

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  3. Becky JaneDecember 9, 2011 at 10:07 AM

    @Lindsay, This must be a difficult time for your family. It's okay to take Christmas off.

    @Candida, The memories do flood back.

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  4. Melanie PayneDecember 9, 2011 at 11:04 AM

    Wonderful post. Thanks for sharing this! Time does heal, I enjoy the memories. With each memory comes back the love you had for that person. Love never goes away, time will never take that away from you.

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  5. Becky JaneDecember 9, 2011 at 11:06 AM

    @Melanie, I agree, focusing on the love shared instead of the loss, makes it easier and even a joyful time!

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  6. UnknownDecember 9, 2011 at 2:52 PM

    Becky; Thank you for such a wonderful Post! My family has gone through a roller coaster this last year, as I lost my sweet 7 yr old Niece last Dec 28th, my Oldest sister a few months ago; and my 20 yr old Nephew just a few short weeks ago. This Holiday season is quite difficult as this is the first year that we will be without each one of them. It is a struggle; but I hang tight to the saying that the first year is the hardest because we really don't want to face anything harder than this.

    I thank you for these wonderful suggestions on how to manage the grief around the special season. I will have to share this with my family.

    JadeLouise Designs

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  7. Becky JaneDecember 9, 2011 at 3:43 PM

    @Amber, My goodness, your family has had so much sorrow this past year. Special prayers for you all.

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  8. bettyDecember 9, 2011 at 3:44 PM

    First time commenting on your blog; I am glad you wrote this post. My mom passed 12/13/2006; Christmas has never been the same since. Hubby's mom just died this past 11/16/2011; he "gets" it now when I told him how hard it was to get in the spirit of Christmas after she died. We're not putting up a tree this year and while in years past he would have perhaps pushed for it, this year he's "okay" with it. Our hope though is in Jesus and we do know we will see our moms again :)

    Wishing you a peaceful Christmas season.
    b
    etty

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  9. SamanthaDecember 10, 2011 at 9:25 AM

    i have a neighbor dealing with this now and it is so sad- it breaks my heart

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  10. Jennifer-Eighty MPH MomDecember 10, 2011 at 6:41 PM

    What a beautiful and much needed post. My dad died in June, and this will be our first Christmas without him. Thanksgiving was really hard, as it was his favorite holiday.

    I think the first year is the hardest...although the holidays are difficult for quite a few years.

    Thank you...

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  11. ninalazinaDecember 11, 2011 at 8:56 AM

    I have a neighbour who has recently lost her husband - they were together for 59 years. This has made me remember her and I shall visit her in the week.
    Thanks for the post.
    Nina

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  12. Grandma HoneyDecember 11, 2011 at 5:30 PM

    I hope you don't mind that I borrowed this video for my blog. We had just gone to a funeral yesterday and it was exactly what I was thinking about.

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  13. GraceDecember 11, 2011 at 7:16 PM

    I read this via E-mail when it came into my box. It is so difficult to loose loved ones and then miss them so badly for the holidays. I lost an aunt on Christmas eve one year and it just ruined the holiday for us for the longest time.

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  14. AnonymousDecember 11, 2011 at 9:44 PM

    nice post! thank you very much for sharing...loves soraya

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  15. UnknownDecember 12, 2011 at 8:48 PM

    I remember reading once about a woman who lost her husband after 65 years. The only thing she could think of to help ease the pain, especially at night, was to sleep on his pillow on his side of the bed.

    I lost 5 family members in 5 months in 2009, and this Christmas makes me feel weepy without them. *Sniff*

    Thanks for sharing this. I wuv you berry much
    Sharon

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  16. UnknownDecember 12, 2011 at 11:21 PM

    What a great post. I agree wholeheartedly. My Grandma got sick on Christmas day. Then the next Christmas her and Grandpa were both gone. My other Gramie had a birthday on Christmas. It took many years to finally embrace the new Christmas and make my own traditions. I still miss them but enjoy the wonderful memories

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  17. TyKes MomDecember 13, 2011 at 12:00 PM

    This is such a good post. It is a topic that is not touched upon often but is so important to many. The holidays are definitely the most difficult time after a loss. Great tips. Thank you for writing this.

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  18. UnknownDecember 13, 2011 at 2:49 PM

    Becky Jane, It's taken me a bit to comment on this post, but I thank you for writing it. I thought my first Christmas without Jim was debilitating, but I wasn't prepared to handle the intense grief that has overcome me once November came around. Holidays without those we love are devastating. I survive only because I have the Lord walking through this dark time with me. Without that, I would no longer wish to live.

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  19. AmyDecember 13, 2011 at 7:20 PM

    It is so hard to find comfort after such a huge loss. Great tips for processing Becky Jane.

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  20. AnonymousJanuary 11, 2012 at 4:24 AM

    BeckyJane, how did I miss this??? Commenting a bit late ....but here goes! Christmas is a hard time for my family and I. We lost our Craig, my son, his brother, their grandson and her nephew....we all gather around the banquet table and we all know that there is one precious one missing from our celebration. Craig was killed in a MVA on 12-18-1996 ...it has been 15 years but the void of my Craig in our lives will never cease to be: Hugs to all of you that have this same experience at Christmas time.

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