It's my personal feeling, that if we pay more attention to the kind of friend WE should be, then we will eventually attract good friends.
The trends of today present difficult situations for each of us. All too often good is called bad and bad is considered good. I appreciate the scriptures, because they keep me focused on what is REAL... morality, kindness, honesty, integrity, virtue.
When evaluating what kind of friend you are, ask yourself this question: "Do I want to be the kind of friend that encourages these values or the kind of friend that just goes along with whatever happens?"
Good is still good and bad is still bad. I want to be the kind of friend that helps others want to be the best they can be...sometimes that means I'm my only friend, and President Thomas S Monson says that's okay!
"My young friends, be strong. The philosophies of men surround us. The face of sin today often wears the mask of tolerance. Do not be deceived; behind that facade is heartache, unhappiness, and pain. You know what is right and what is wrong, and no disguise, however appealing, can change that. The character of transgression remains the same. If your so-called friends urge you to do anything you know to be wrong, you be the one to make a stand for right, even if you stand alone. Have the moral courage to be a light for others to follow. There is no friendship more valuable than your own clear conscience, your own moral cleanliness—and what a glorious feeling it is..."
We need to be an example to others, because the media is sure making it difficult to determine what good friends are all about. I watched a current teen movie the other day and was surprised at the behavior that was considered the norm. Friends encouraging eachother to get even with an enemy, immorality was praised, immodesty encouraged and so forth. These type of actions are not what good friends want for eachother.
If we want to be a good friend, we need courage. Sometimes we will find ourselves in situations that are compromising. We will have to stand for what is going to help our friends see that we care about what is best for them and for ourselves. Surprisingly, if we stand up and make our desires for good known, our friends will usually latch on to our courage and will join us.
BUT, this isn't always the case. Sometimes we'll be teased, ridiculed, or even shunned. We need to understand that that's okay. Everyone has to make their own choices and everyone has to live with their own choices. When I go to bed at night I want to know that I can live with my choices.
An example is my husband, CL. At his work he's known as the man who doesn't swear, smoke, drink, or participate in dirty jokes and stories. Some of the guys at work kid him, but most of them admire him and respect him. When he walks into a room and someone is swearing or telling a dirty joke, they'll stop because they don't want to offend him. They know they can count on CL to be a good friend and that he wants them to be the best they can be. His example goes a long way! (Plus he's so dang cute and sweet, who wouldn't want him for a friend!)
Our friends need to know they can rely on us to uplift and strengthen them.